Q&A Bandwagon (More Answers Again)

Because why not?

(Actually I can think of several reasons why not, but we’ll see how this goes.)

1 question.

1 chance.

1 honest answer.

Thats all you get.

You get to ask me 1 question.

Any question, anything, no matter how crazy, dirty, or wrong it is.

No catch.

But I dare you to repost this.

And see what people ask you!

Why is it important for you that you have a best female friend (not that I think that’s weird, I’m just looking for your reasoning because I know it’s important to you). [Honor] – Because I think a best female friend would be able to understand me in different ways than a best guy friend or a boyfriend would. I want to be able to do girly things with someone, like getting pedicures and going shopping for underwear. I want to be able to vent about guys and relationships and get sympathy in return. Or a swift kick in the pants, if that’s what is needed instead. I want to be able to ask someone to do my hair for me or go exercise with me or go to a painting or pottery class. I remember the friendships I had with females back in the day, and they were always very different from the friendships I had with any males. I miss that. Though at this point, just friends (best or mediocre, female or male) would be nice.

What’s up with the CD exchange group? Is it still happening? [mrowsera] – I’m sending out October’s CD within the next week, hopefully. And then it will go from there. I sent an email. =)

What is the kinkiest thing you have done or want to do? [Zaphod] – I honestly don’t think I’ve done very many kinky things. Other people might disagree, but I guess my boundaries are further out than most. That being said, I’m really interested in various aspects of BDSM (NOT the humiliation stuff, though), shibari, and role playing. I have a bit of a lack-of-control fetish, I think.

Since I know you like to do crafts: What craft project are you the most proud of making? [Luthien] – I was really proud of the sweater I made for Kevin. I wish I had kept it, but I didn’t because at the time it was too painful. But it was my first major project for someone else and it came out pretty darn well. I don’t have any pictures, which is odd, but I guess I wasn’t in an online posting frame of mind at the time. I’m also proud of the calla lilies I made for the family last Christmas, but for entirely different reasons – the craft part of it was minimal. Kyle’s gloves were a source of pride when I finally finished, them too. Those were probably the most detailed and time-consuming and I persevered and eventually finished them. They weren’t super great – the flap could use some work, but they’re pretty decent. So, really, I don’t have ONE that I’m most proud of. I’m proud of most of them for various reasons, though. Except for the afghans I’ve made, they’re kind of bland and do not inspire pride. Heh.

What do you really think about your book club (do you like the books they choose, do you like the people, would you do something differently, etc)? [caitriona] – Honestly, I’m beginning to loathe it. The past two books I haven’t particularly liked, though the one before that was my choice, essentially. We end up having a suggestion list of books and then the members vote on them so it’s fairly democratic, but it still sucks when a book is chosen that I have little interest in. And as the organizer now (which is part of why I’m beginning to loathe it so much), I feel obligated to read the books and go, even if I don’t want to or have other things going on. But that could change at any time if the right book is chosen, I suppose. The people are a different matter. There are three of us that have been going regularly for the past three or so months. Angela is neat and I like her, but she’s a stay-at-home mom so we haven’t really connected. Gail is a trip. She’s 60 something and calls herself an herbalist and healer. She travels a lot with her husband and she doesn’t work so she reads a book a day, if not more. It took me about 45 minutes after we first met to realize that she and my Grandma share the same name, Gail and Gayle. It’s spelled differently which is why I didn’t realize it right off the bat (and there’s probably a lot of repression going on, too, but whatever). Now that I’ve realized it, it makes me a little uncomfortable to listen to her tell her stories, even though they’re pretty neat.

So if I could do something differently, I’d be the one picking out the books all the time and I’d not be the organizer and I’d have more people I could relate to on a personal level show up. The group could probably do with some males, too, but it’s okay without them, I guess.

What’s going on between you and Kyle these days anyway? [Melly] – A lot of World of Warcraft. Haha! We’re back together because we love each other and love spending time together. Whether that’s enough to keep us together for the rest of our lives, even though that’s what we both seem to want, is unclear at this point.

What if this is the most I can ever give? [_Smallville_] – Then that’s a huge problem for me because I deserve more. I’m not demanding more thisverysecond, but if there isn’t more to look forward to in the future, that’s an issue. I cherish what we have, but I do want more. And denying that will only make both of us miserable in the long run. If this is the most you can ever give, we should probably cut our losses sooner rather than later and move on.

Where do you see yourself in five years? ~jo [midnight radio] – Same place I do now – in the mirror! Haha, I kill me. Seriously though, I will have the majority of my debt paid off in five years, including all of my credit card debt and most likely my car – I’ll have school loans left, and not very much probably. I hope to have a mortgage by that time and I hope to be going back to school for something or other by then as well. I hope that I’m happily married by then as well. I would like to say that my husband will be Kyle, but I honestly can’t say for sure.

Anymore questions? I’m open to them.

Why do you feel you’re not very close with your parents? [lady dmaj] – I will actually devote a more detailed (and favorites only) entry to this, but for now: I feel like my dad abandoned me (and my mom and sister, technically) when I was a kid. I always wanted to be special to him and someone he wanted to spend time with. I put him on a pedestal for a very long time, continually longing for the classic father-daughter relationship. Then I grew out of it and realized that he’s not someone I’d have anything to do with at all, except that he gave me half my DNA. I see him maybe 6 or 7 times a year. We don’t talk much at all even when we do see each other.

I’m closer to my mom. Obviously, because how could I be less close than I am to my dad? But I don’t feel like she gets me. I feel likeshe’s got this idea of who I should be or how I should act or live my life and I don’t agree with her idea of who I am, but I’m not the confrontational type so I don’t call her on it or anything. We talk about crafts and other people in the family when we’re together usually.

Question: If you could have a do-over on any of your life’s experiences, which one would you choose and what would you do differently? [Darkie] – Through most of my formative years I always had the policy that any do-over would change who I am today and I like who I am today, so why do anything over? Yeah, I kicked that philosophy to the curb a long time ago so this is an easy question for me to answer. When Kevin left for law school without me even though we had been discussing moving together for our entire senior year of college and he waited until a month before graduation to tell me he was going to move without me, I would have a) dumped him and b) gone back to live with my mom. What I did was a) stay with him and support him even though he didn’t encourage or support me or my lifestyle only to be dumped by him 2 years later for God and b) stayed in a 2-bedroom apartment in Boulder that I couldn’t afford with a job, let alone the 5 months I was there WITHOUT a job. I racked up an insane amount of debt because of that stubborn I’ll-show-you-I-don’t-need-you stunt. A better way to show him I didn’t need him would have been to leave him completely. I’m still paying for those actions today. Literally. Fucker. (I’m not entirely sure if that is directed at him or the younger me that didn’t realize she would be consumed by debt after living off her credit cards for so long.)

How did you get into crafting? (I love how many different crafty things you do, and it inspires me to do more myself!) [Red] – Yay for inspiration! I got into crafting partly because I grew up around it since my mom’s been crafting for a long time and partly because during my Junior year of college I had a lot of time on my hands and discovered Craftster.org. I first started my crafting (apart from crafts with my mom) with soap making and making my own rubber stamps. I started crocheting that summer and the knitting that October, in 2003. It’s all been a pretty steady obsession since then. I feel more connected to things and life when I craft and create. It’s a great feeling. And making whatever I want to my own specifications is pretty swell.