Rest in Peace, Angel

I should be working but I really don’t have that much to do so I will get everything done that I need to before the end of the day.

I took most of the morning off to go to a funeral. Dick’s cousin Angel died. She smoked pot as a way to control her pain. I am not sure what caused the pain but that was her way of dealing with it. She got some laced with PCP and it killed her. It was decided last week that she was brain dead and she would be disconnected from life support Wednesday, January 13. She lived until the wee hours of Sunday morning. It is said that her mother was born in the very early morning of January 17. Her sister Joni believes that she waited until her mother’s birthday. I only met Angel a couple of times, that was back in 2001. I met her at her aunt (Dick’s aunt) Dora’s funeral then she came to the Highlander when I was working there. We talked for a long time then she looked at me and said "why the fuck am I telling you my whole life story? I don’t even know you and why the fuck are you listening to me. I don’t talk about me like this." Honestly, she did not remember me from Dora’s funeral.  Weird but that is the way that it is. It is so hard to see what death does to a family. One sister here from out of state but she didn’t even show up at the funeral. Another sister from out of state was here was at the funeral but went out of her way to show Joni, her sister, that she wasn’t talking to her. Hugging Jim and Dick ~ sitting across the table from Joni. I thought that was just down right mean. I looked at Joni and said "go try!" She said "I did, twice, she turns away." For the love of God. Why do people have to act like that.

I feel bad for Angel’s boyfriend, Dale, of 16 years. He is going to get the screws put to him by the whole lot of them. I am sending a card directly to him. I don’t know him from Adam but I do know that he should be treated as if he were her husband. Sixteen years is a long time to be together and just because they weren’t married does not mean that he should have no say.

Even when Dick and I weren’t "together" I always said that if anything were to happen to me, he has the say. No one else does. I would not my brothers or sisters coming and taking my stuff…like my car. It is in my name but our finances have always been together.

Joni co-signed a loan for Angel to get her car so Joni thinks she is entitled to the car. I don’t believe that Joni paid anything on the car. That car should stay with Dale.

One last complaint on things that really should not matter to me! Angel was cremated. We went from the funeral home to a place downtown where they held a reception for her. Joni left Angel in the car. I asked Joni, where is Angel?
In the car.
Go get her!
I even told Joni’s hubby to go get her. No one would bring her in. I turned around, looked at Dick, and said if I have to miss my own party there is going to be hell to pay! I think I even stomped my foot.

Rest in Peace, Angel, your pain is gone.