May 24, 2013

TO HAVE OR NOT TO HAVE

I think if I had to do it again I wouldn’t have children.
They are too big a responsibility and it never ends.
There is some joy of course but I don’t think it is worth it.
I see my son and all the stress he is under.
Of course it’s his fault he had to buy a huge house and now has to pay for the mortgage.
I debate whether or not I should warn my daughter.
Why should she get into the rat race. In Toronto everything is so expensive.
There is so much heartache with children.
There is so much frustration with children.
Are they worth it?
Maybe yes but I think mostly not.

Probably we need to live in a different society.
We need to live in a child oriented society.
We need to live in a society where children are put first – not material things.
We need to live in a simple society where we don’t need to shlep them to so many activities.
We need to live in a society where one parent can stay home to raise the children.
We need to live in a society where children are uppermost in our minds.

OTHERWISE I WOULD SAY DON’T HAVE CHILDREN.

Don’t tell me that it doesn’t matter who changes the diapers.
Don’t tell me it doesn’t matter who feeds them.
Don’t tell me it’s quality over quantity.

I SAY HOGWASH!!!!

Two parents who come home at the end of the day are usually stressed out.
How can they have patience for their children?

So, in conclusion, I say, "THINK IT OVER VERY VERY CAREFULLY BEFORE YOU COMMIT YOURSELF TO BRINGING CHILDREN INTO THE WORLD.

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TheWoodsprite

May 25, 2013

I am glad we have our two kids, and glad that is ALL we had!! and I agree, there are way too many people just mindlessly having children, because very few stay home to take care of them. hugs, Nicky

gray tabby

i had 2 children and even though there were hardships in raising them, i wouldn’t have ever thought not to have had them. i heard that the mother of the boy who was driving the car that he and my son were killed, said that if she had known her son would die she never would have had him. me… i’d rather have known my son and loved him and lost him than to never have had him. however, being the oldest of 9, i’m glad i only had 2! would have been much more difficult with any more. their father and i decided that 2 was enough. take care,

Pooh Bear Granny

You make good points. I had three children, all grown now and I have 7 grandchildren, some of them adults now. There were good times and bad but I think the good out weighed the bad many times over. I feel lucky to have my wonderful grandchildren. I would not trade my children or grandchildren for anything. I feel blessed by these wonderful young people. Love

Tornado

Gypsy Spirit

I disagree with you on this. Having children generally makes us better people too. I know people who never had kids and they become very self-centred and intolerant. hugs p

ps…oh and I meant to say…we learn other things from being a parent too…we learn patience, kindness and how to nurture, amongst other virtues. Remember there are many people who are unable to have children at all . Its a privilege to be a parent. p

cardslinger

I agree with your 2nd , 3rd, and 4th paragraphs and conclusion but I did not want children myself and now have four. I have been blessed way beyond the frustration and hardships.

RYN: Yes! It all happened very fast. My brother and sil offered me a room in their three-bedroom home rent free! I will pay rent anyway, but I was shocked when they called and offered me a place to stay!!!! Very kind and generous.

Ragdolls

If I knew at age 18 what I know now at age 60 I would have never gotten married or had children. My 2 daughters turned their backs on me when their father left me after 30yrs for another woman.(He controlled them with money). I was so alone & broke. They treated me so horribly that I will never heal from those wounds. So, I understand your feelings!