MY EX DIL

For whatever reason I want to have a relatonship with my ex DIL. Maybe it’s because she’s my grandson’s mother and maybe it’s because I really like her even after what she’s done to my son. I feel that I am betraying my son and his wife. For the longest time we were talking and being friendly. Then there were words and emails sent and since then she doesn’t come to the door anymore when I drop off my grandson. I can’t blame her. However I still WANT to be friendly. I use to send stuff to my grandson at her house as he is there every second week but my son and his wife told me not to. I don’t know why I can’t accept their decision. Partly I think it’s because she has one child so I feel she has more time to spend with him. At my son’s house there are three children and the household is much more stressed as both parents work. Last year I didn’t send anything to her house. Now I am so tempted to start again but I’m not sure if my son will find out and get upset. 
I had the most wonderful day today!!!!!!!!! I went swimming at eight o’clock. There are two women who are always there. They are new friends. Anyhow we were talking at the pool this morning and they invited me to go shopping with them. They were going to buy yarn! I was so excited. I offered to drive. They accepted. We were four altogether. We went to the yarn store and bought some yarn and the round large "spool." I am making some type of "cowl." So far so good. Then we went for lunch and to PEARLS – a large craft store. We bought some safety pin, beads and wire. We are going to make bracelets. I can’t tell you how happy I was to find women who are interested in crafts. I am not alone anymore. I don’t know if these relationships will last but I will certainly do my best. I’ve been thinking that maybe I shouldn’t take any courses this winter. Instead I should get together with other women. So far I have a group to play cards with on Monday. I will get together with these women about once or twice a month. They are all at the pool every afternoon so I will see them often. If I get up early I can meet them at the pool. On Thursday so far I will be playing Mah JONGG. Maybe this would be better than taking courses unless I can find a course I like on other days.
Tonight we went for supper with another couple. We went to OLive Garden. I had chicken parmigian – very good.
So that was my exciting day. Take care everyone. Hope it’s not too cold.

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November 30, 2011

Sounds like you are having a good time. I love Florida.

Divorces are so tough on us grandparents!

November 30, 2011

Why don’t you say it to your ex DIL the same way you said it here….that you like her and would really like to keep on being friends? And if your son and his new wife say anything about it, tell them it is really NOT their business! These kids want us to love whomever they marry, and then STOP loving whomever they choose to divorce, but sometimes it just doesn’t work that way. hugs, Nicky

December 1, 2011

The ex DIL thing is tough, I think if it going to upset your son it is better if you butt out JMO.