I AM SO UPSET
I FEEL SO SAD!
I AM SO UPSET!
I DON’T KNOW WHO I CAN TALK TO!
MAYBE I AM OVERREACTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This morning hubby and I walked over to the synagogue. It wasn’t too bad – about 1/2 hour. Just about the same as from our old, house. I have a feeling it will be the last time we walk. There are so many lasts lately and so many changes. Maybe too many…………
So what got me most upset was my grandson. He came to sit beside me in shul. While my other two grandchildren ran around and played with other children he was content to sit by my side. We had a chance to talk which we have never done before. Granted he is eight now and probably it is easier for him to verbalize his feelings. Maybe he needed someone to talk to. Now I need someone. Thankfully I am going to the psychologist on Tuesday so I will talk to her.
First my grandson told me how much my son’s wife screams. I have seen her in action so I can just imagine. How does my son live with that?????? My son is so quiet. My grandson told me that his mother’s worst punishment is my son’s wife easiest?????????????????? Say what???????????? Where is my son in all this? I don’t think I can talk to my son because he will go back to her. He must agree with her because they just got married. I feel so horrible to hear what my precious grandson is being subjected to.
As we were talking I mentioned that some friends are closer than family. He said NOT in this family. I should have asked him what he meant but I didn’t. I didn’t think of it.
I told him that I wanted to take him for a BUBBY day and he said I would bring him home LATE!!!!!!!!!!!! He’s not in a rush to go home!!!!!!!
I will have to talk to my psychologist about all this and hear what she suggests I do.
I brought the three of them candy which I do every year. I suggested he eat something. HE WAS AFRAID!!!!!!!!!!!!! Even when his father motioned that he could eat it and her son was eating one of the candies he wouldn’t eat anything. It was only when he went to sit by his father did he eat some candy. Sounds to me he is afraid of my son’s wife………………..my heart is breaking. I mentioned something to my hubby but he didn’t hear, understand or care to respond. So I am all alone here and I could only thinking of writing an entry.
My daughter just called. I guess I will talk to her and get her take on all this.
Ginger, I would be concerned too. That definitely does not sound like a good situation. I think I would try to dig a little deeper. Of course I know you will have to be careful how you do that. Boy, I sure feel for your Grandson, as this is not right. Hope it all works out. Love,
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Definately talk to your psychologist about this. NOT a good sign of a healthy child. 🙁
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Poor kid. I hope he’s not being abused. I think you should investigate more and step in if necessary! It sounds like he is being exposed to much more than an eight-year-old should be exposed to. I’m glad he has a good, loving grandmother on his side. hugs, Nicky
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I understand your concerns and you definitely need to talk with your son. But its not a good idea to let on to him who told you the problem as your grandson trusted you with that information. Grandson needs to have someone he can trust to share his feelings and experiences with, and you are privileged he chose you.Don’t betray his trust, he needs you. If your son doesn’t want to talk about thingswith you (men are proud)…perhaps you need to suggest he talks to his son at least and they can support each other. Its awful to have such knowledge as this but only they can change things. Just continue to love them and offer support. hugs P
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Sounds like your son is a little henpecked by his wife. Sorry your grandson has to deal with that. That is one reason I will never get remarried, I do not want my children to have to deal with a step father. I don’t think my kids care for their step mother either but at least they do not have to deal with her that much. Not sure what you can do about it but just be there for your grandson.
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That is a tough situation. And you have some great advice here from your noters. I’m sure you’ll get to the bottom of this and deal with it appropriately. Just make sure you don’t alienate your son and his wife or you may not get to see your grandson.
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That is heartbreaking. ((((hugs)))) I hope you can work this out in the best possible way, whatever you decide. It’s too bad that your husband isn’t weighing in on this. He might have been the best one to talk with your son in a man-to-man way. That probably wouldn’t have worked out with my husband, either. Women seem to be the ones to care the most, or at least be willing to talk things over.
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That’s terrible. Can you talk to your son about it?
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How sad! I hope the psychologist has a good idea for you
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Oh, goodness. I can only imagine how upset you must feel. I’m so glad your grandson feels you are someone he can trust!
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how terribly sad to be 8 and to be afraid of your father’s wife. poor little guy. prayers for him. take care,
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