TALK TO HIM
One of my noters said I should talk to my hubby and she is right. I am just not sure what I want to say. Last night I was so fed up. It looks different in the morning. Sometimes I feel that I am selfish. So he had a good time with his friends. I should have planned a fun day for myself except I am not sure what. I asked my friends to go for supper last night but noone wanted to go. In the city I am sure I would have had someone.
Why can’t I just accept coming to the trailer?
Why am I so unhappy?
Why do I have to spend to be happy?
I will not talk to him today or I don’t think so.
Next weekend I just might not come especially if we come home from Toronto late on Friday.I woke up very early. I already had breakfast and did the WII. Now I’m going to take a shower and PAINT!!!!!! I have wanted to paint for quite awhile. Todays the day. Hubby went into town. I didn’t go because I don’t need anything and didn’t want to spend any money.
So I will relax and paint and work on my jigsaw puzzle.
Could it be that, you maybe feel out of place when hubby is with all his friends and, you feel sort of left out? I know that has happened with me when, he would go with his family and they would all be talking about things I had no idea about and, I felt alone in a crowded room. I hope you can talk it out and enjoy your painting!
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Just laying around reading would be a break for me. My parents use to paint. I loved their work.
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What would you do if you were a widow? I think THAT is what you should do. Then, when you want to spend time with him, you’ll really enjoy it.
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Once I was with someone who needed people around more than I did.. I resented the fact that just being with me wasnt enough… He NEEDED other company… I think the thing was I wanted a couple he prefered a crowd.. So he got what he wanted by going out with groups of friends but was never content with what I wanted which wasnt being by myself but being with him.. just the two of us. It made me feel like I wasnt enough.. that I wasnt good company. I dont know what the answer is.. or if there is one.
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Everyone likes to have the freedom to make their own choices. You feel like you have to go to the trailer and it’s not your decision. Tell him that you want to decide for yourself. You’re a big girl after all!
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Its hard to accept something you have no control over and that may be what bothers you the most, talk to him he may not be aware of how you feel and he needs to know. I often think of how boring our lives are at times, and wish we were doing more things together, then I think of how lonely it would be if he was not around anymore….huggs
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Sure you can talk to him all you want but most likely he isn’t going to change at this point in his life, people get set in their ways once you get to certain age. If you really don’t want to go with him, just stay home! He doesn’t seem to care one way or the other.
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As someone else noted, probably nothing will change at this stage of the game, however, you are not happy, but you also seem to be very uncertain as to what you want. I think if you would at least talk to your husband and lay out your feelings, your ambivlance about things, at least you would feel better in that it would be off your chest. At least talk to him to see how he would feel if you
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didn’t come out every weekend. Maybe that is okay w/him. And then when you are there, if you want his company, you probably need to tell him that. Or, if you go there, then just make your own plans. If you don’t like that, then don’t go.
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Talking is always good. I think you should give it a try. Good luck.
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