EXERPT FROM LEARNING TO FALL – OK

As I see it we know we’re truly grown up when we stop trying to fix people. About all we can do for people is to love them and treat them with kindness. That goes for ourselves too. That goes for ourselves especially. I’ve given up on self-improvement. Fact is, my character is pretty much set, and even if I was in perfect health I would have to accept the following truths: my desk will always be messy; I will never stop being bothered by other people’s errors of grammar; I don’t find badly done children’s school concerts "cute"; I pick my nose; I notice beautiful women; I can’t stand laziness, whether physical, moral, or intellectual; I cry during sappy father-to-son moments in movies; I will stop almost anything to watch my daughter brush her hair. For better or worse, these things are beyond fixing. Accepting ourselves means accepting the whole package, the whole sour and sweet, lovely and larcenous mess that we are.

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August 11, 2009

I’m pretty much into accepting the way we are, too…. but this guy could stand to change a few things. Like the kids’ school concerts….geez, why NOT find them cute? They don’t have to be as good as a Broadway production! hugs, Weesprite

August 11, 2009

once I learned to accept myself the way I am and stopped trying to fix things that could not be fixed my life became a lot happier. I rather fix the things I can for others and make their lives happier…..huggs

August 11, 2009

Great attitude. This reminds me of a quotation from AA – “Acceptance is the answer to all my living problems.”

August 11, 2009

i go to blake’s band concerts where he plays the trombone. it was okay but i’ll go again this year to support him. don’t think he’ll be playing the trombone. i’ve just about got to the place where i accept myself as i am. there are just some things i can’t/won’t change about myself. take care,

August 11, 2009

yeah but this doesn’t seem to speak exactly to my experience….i’m not fussing about my looks. but i’m still interested in surprises.