ADVICE-READ
I wonder when it’s a good idea to offer advice, suggestions etc.
Two examples from today.
My nephew got married in March. I received a Thank you card today saying that he is planning to take his parents to Las Vegas next January with some of the money he received. I am not sure for how long. I would like to call and suggest that he give his parents the money towards a month or two in Florida. I am not sure if I should say anything. My sister is going to be 76! I think she would be much better off going to Florida in the winter for a few months. She has money that my brother left her. I think she should use it! I guess it is really is two different events.
Tonight I went to a lecture about nutrition. There were three speakers including my cousin who is a cookbook writer. She prepared two desserts. There was at least 200 people. As she prepared the recipe she made comments, and gave hints. Many of the women in the audience were talking. I would like to suggest that when she has such a large audience she just talks and doesn’t stand behind a table preparing stuff. People lost their interest and there was a lot of mumbling. I am sure this is not the first time she spoke. What do you think about these two situations? Should I just mind my own business unless I am asked?
It sounds as if your nephew wants to take his parents for a treat that he can share with them…. but I am sure he would appreciate your thoughts on the subject. he possibly hasn’t considered the points you raise. AS for your cousins talk..is it possible they couldn’t hear her properly when she was demonstrating? It does sound as if she needs to do more to hold people’s attention. I am sure you can be tactful in discussing this with her. hugs P
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I would talk to your cousin. She might appreciate the advice on how to better prepare her talks.
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The second I would mention — the first, not so sure. I do know that people SELDOM take advice — it is usually just useless to offer it. Maybe your sister would enjoy Las Vegas — I wouldn’t! 🙂
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I think it is tacky for someone to use money they got for their wedding on something not household related, but that is just me. You could suggest it, but vegas really isn’t that expensive. When I lived in CA we would pop up for the weekend and stay at a really nice hotel for under $50 a night.
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Me personally would like to have the oppertunity to pick out of the two myself. The parents should be asked what they want to do. And I would tell the cook book writer thank-you for the invite and maybe next time she could make sure the audiance is actually paying attention instead of talking and making it difficult for you to pay attention. But then I might be more bolder than you.
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I think we should nearly ALWAYS keep our thoughts to ourselves unless asked! Especially in the case of your nephew….it’s his business what he does with his money and where he takes his parents! hugs, Weesprite
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Do they usually tend to listen to you? If not , you might just be wasting your breath. Maybe suggest to your sister that she do both and you had thought it would be nice to visit with her in Florida. Really, I don’t know. Just thinking “in type”. 🙂
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Ya know – I read Gypsy Spirit and agree with her! I’ve learned that most people don’t care what you think if they’ve got their minds made up – but as these are relatives – they may listen! Hugs,
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I wouldn’t say anything about the first one, I am sure your nephew wants to do what he wanted to do and taking his parents to Vegas was just an excuse so he can go himself. So saying anything probably would not be welcome. As for your cousin, I would say something. That way she can be better prepared for the next time she presents her recipes. Maybe she can get some members of the audienceto participate and that would keep their interest.
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