What Is Abuse?

What is abuse? Is passive aggression abuse? How much pain; physically, psychologically, emotionally, does a person need to feel before they are abused? Is abuse relative? What is your definition of abuse?

I got this question from a forum that I post to..If you want to anwser it then by all means then do so. But I wanted to share my story.

I have been “abused” most of my childhood and into my teenhood. Physically, psychologically, and emotionally. My Father would hit, kick and at times push me down the hallway and stairs. I have had three broken arms and two broken legs because of it. It started at a young age and I was made to believe that it was “normal”. My Mother, wouldn’t do anything about it. Not once did she try to help me. Not once. Yet I never saw my Father hit or treat my Mother the same way that he treated me. Most of the “abuse” came down to the fact that he wanted a son, and I come out a daughter.

Even now to this day, if I see him he still tells me that I’m “nothing” and that I will never be “nothing” because I’m a woman. He has called me every bad name or saying under the sun. I have heard it all. To me this is abuse.

Abuse because Physically he hurt me, and emotionally has I don’t have a lot of self-esteem because if it. For years and even now, to make myself feel better, I eat. I eat anything and everything. It’s a bad road. I’m like a balloon plus two more. I’m an emotional eatter and I find it as my “way out” to forget everything. I’m starting to getting there and I’m able to now talk about why food is my comfort zone and how to pin point times in my life why I went and still go to food.

My main goal is to lose weight, to lose the emotional baggage that I have put on over so many years. To be able to enjoy myself. To lose and forgive what happened, but I don’t think I would be able to forget. It’s a long road to healing but it’s starting for me.

Kellie

*HUGS*

Frick him, just remember you HAVE amounted to something…BEING A GREAT MOTHER!

*hugs* u are not a nothing, never have been and certainly never will be! u are a wonderful person and a great mum! (abuse – when a persons rights are violated!)

*hugs* i know where you are coming from hun. It’s a long road and sometimes you fall to the side again, but you’ll get there :o)

Emerald Sapphires

April 5, 2004

((Hugs))

Aashna

Just BreatheThank you so very much for sharing your story….I can identify with you on what your father tells you because I have heard the same thing my entire life. And when I wasn’t being told I was nothing, I was being treated that way. I’m sending you big hugs, have courage on this journey, you’ll make it 🙂

I too was abused as a child. I was physically abused by my father, emotionally as well, verbally. I was sexually abused by three people who will remain nameless. daddy has also said we were no good we try to be good so he will love us

MamaNProud

Whoa, what an interesting story! I wish you the best of luck in getting your life together. We’re here for you, with all the support that you need!

Texas

It takes incredibly strength to share such a store. I’m proud of you, and here for you. (((hugs))) HAng in there, stay brave. -Rie

**HUGS*** I can relate. My father abused me growing up. It seemed I always got the worst of his anger. No broken bones, but pleanty of beatings (even with his fist), and verbal abuse. AFter I moved out, things changed. Maybe he’s mellowed with age? He’s very good with Jake (they adore each other) and offers his help to me plenty when I feel my world is caving in. Our relationships is

is so different now. Still, I feel I really missed out on something growing up. I think it helped with my parenting skills too. I chose my words carfefully with my child. I have never ever refered to him as Stupid, worthless, or lazy. (my father’s words for me when I was growing up). Tose words hurt, sometimes more than the physical stuff. *******HUGS*******

MuchoLynsie

April 6, 2004

I’m really glad you are realizing your problems. Every woman is beautiful and special and I hope you know that deep down. 🙂

*Hugs*

Rynkole

April 7, 2004

Words can hurt a lot more than any physical pain. My grandfather spoke to my mother in the same way your father spoke to you. The effect on my mother caused years of pain for my whole family. I hope you can overcome the problems he has caused for you. Hugs.

The Kid

May 4, 2004

{{{{HUGS}}}}} – You CAN do this – I can tell. 🙂