Play it again, Stanley

Poor Stanley next sunday he will fly to Ohio to again rescue his father. The stubborn ole man, I am getting weary of all this. We spend our money over and over to assist these two and they say they won’t press charges against a grandson who stole thousands from them, "Jesus wants us to take care of him" I wish it was easy to just disappear out of the picture, capoof, away, up in a puff, out of sight, kaboom….there they goooooooooooooooooo. Stanley and Ollie on a marvelous wonderful adventure called….."YOU TWO ARE GETTING OLD, SO FORGET ABOUT THE OLE FOGIES THEY DON’T WANT YOUR HELP ANYWAY!!!

The Social Worker at the rehab facility did a mini mental test on Stanley’s dad…hoping that we could get him declared incompetent…alas…he passed with flying colors. So, the alternative is an ultimatum…"Dad you and Mom will lose your house if you go to an assisted living or you can live with us….make your choice…but the rules will be different this time…

Last night Stanley’s dad was readmitted to the hospital with pneumonia now….but he will go back to the nursing home when he is discharged. They can never live alone again, according to the MSW. So, my honey will travel up the long expensive road again to get them back down here again…..there is no choice right now, maybe when all there bills get caught up again…we will be able to move them somewhere else…as it stands now..one of our friends who is a private caregiver…will do 4 hours here everyday to get him up and dressed, bathed and fed…We will get life alert buttons for both of them…and we will eventually sell there house if they don’t lose it…apparently no bills have been paid for about 4 months…on my day off this week I have to make calls to all the utilities and the city where they have a low interest loan.

Last year we had everything organized……………

Thanks friends for all the good input and caring notes….

Sago

January 30, 2006

Let us all swear never to do this to our children. So sorry, dear Ollie. I know you are weary, and even beyond weary.

Chalandra

Sometimes life just doesn’t seem quite fair. I’m sorry.

Holy_Smokes!

There is a golden love seat waiting for you and Stanley in heaven, Ollie. I have not written in yonks, but can feel the time is a’nearing. Think of you often.

Liberalis Femina

I know. Still, when all is said and done you will rest easy knowing you did what you had to do and supported your husband. The only thing that could make it worse would be if you added to his stress. God bless.

Gypsy Spirit

I hope the notes keeping arriving for you. there seems to be a major hiccup here on OD right now, some notes will log in and some won’t……so frustating. Its is so nice to have you back here though…hang in there. love

Pooh Bear Granny

I am so sorry to hear about all this. I will keep you, Stanley and his parents in my thoughts and prayers. Good luck getting everything settled. Take care, Love,

Edelweis

February 1, 2006

Hope all will go well. Much strenght dear Ollie! You are doing a wonderful job. I hope you will not spend your own money. One day you may need the same help you are giving your inlaws now…THE question: Will our children be able to do the same for us as we do now for our parents! We all wish to never do this to our children, but when we are there we probably don’t remember. Take good care, love

TruNorth

February 2, 2006

I wonder if he had taken the mini mental test before, and memorized the answers? Sometimes I think this happens with certain seniors.

Oswego

February 5, 2006

Ollie, what a very difficult situation. I am sorry you have to go through all that. I don’t want to get old, personally. Take care, my friend.