Finally a breakthrough…

Oh Ollie. I am so sorry. I have no advice. You cannot force people to help themselves. Sometimes, as hard as it may be, you just have to sit back and let them suffer the consequences of their actions… or inaction. wish you didn’t have to go through this. Perhaps if you could have them declared incompetent?

Hi Ollie. I’m afraid I don’t have any advice either. Stanley’s parents have to WANT to get rid of him, or press charges for the empied ATM account themselves. Don’t know what you can do except try to make them see reason. I hope Stanley’s health will improve!

Ollie… my memory is going. You are right. I changed that entry accordingly.

No advice, friend, just a whole lot of caring, and prayers for courage, strength and wisdom in how to deal with this sad situation.

Oh Ollie, I’m so sorry for you have such terrible problems/worries. I wouldn’t know what to advice you. I have some experience with family who manage(d)..! themselves in a similar situation. I learned that there is really nothing one can do if “they” themselves don’t want/can/try to change the situation they got in. The next thing to remember is, whatever you will do to help them out, finally, you

will be the people who will get everything over the head. You will have to help them (also financially eventually) while someone else is making parties with the money…etc. The good souls pay for the bad! So, I would clearly explain the parents what the situation is right now and where it will end for them…and that it’s not you and V you will have to get the coals out of the fire! Write things

it was wonderful to find your note…(((hugs Ollie))))..but what an awful experience you’ve all been going through! Golly Ollie! I cannot fathom how a manchild can rip off his grandparents like that…it leaves me speechless. Glad you were able to share this and that your Dell is fixed at last. Advice? Set up a trap for the kid and film it. Then send it anon to police. Thats what I’d do. hugs

down for them and take a copy of that, so that they can re-read what you told them and what the consequenses will be in the near future! It’s axactly the same we sometimes experience with the kids. Here we say it this way: “Those who don’t want to listen…have to sit on blisters!” I wish you much strenght dear friend, and remember, you and V have only one life! Be good for yourself and think of

your own and V’s health. Stress and worries like this can ruin your health…then you can’t even help a little bit! Biggest hugs! Love,

unfortunately if they gave the kid the debit card and pin they gave him permission. They could hot card the card and get a new one and keep it from him. I don’t know what to do to help

What a nightmare. The only thing I can think of is to have the old folks declared incompetent. It’s strange that the elderly are often intentionally “blind” to actions like this though.

What a terrible thing Ollie…so nice to read you again. Sending you love and hugs.

I cannot imagine what it means to have struggled with this for the length of time that you have. Sorry to hear that your good fellow has had surgery. Hope the recovery is swift and unremarkable. You seem to have done all that two people could. I have no information to help with; how I wish I did.

How sad that grandson would take such advantage of the old couple!! It must be really hard on Stanley with recovering from surgery still. I am so glad that my mom had so many loving people around her in her later years and no one took advantage of her. I do hope all works out, my sweet friend. With a ton of good thoughts and hugs sent your way,

Call the local newspaper or radio station and ask them to investigate whether the police have exhausted all avenues against this guy. If the police realize they are being publicly scrutinized they might find more resources to deal with this. (random noter from Merry Present’s diary – feel free to ignore me if I have read the situation incorrectly)

(Nope, really from ~Paula’s diary, random noter)